Update October 5, 2017: It's been 6 years and I still get a ton of hits on this post. This post will still give you a good overview. As I understand it, this information is still up to date, with the exception that they can no longer receive food in care packages except one at the completion of phase 3. For the most up-to-date info, join this facebook group. https://www.facebook.com/groups/rangersupport/
So since this was something that I googled a lot over, I thought I would write a post on my own experience of all my communication with my husband during Ranger School.
It took about 5 days for each of my letters to get from James to me, once they were sent out (and sometimes it would take 3 or 4 days for them to be sent out). Now.. I live all the way in Chicago area, so that's why it took so long. A friend of mine that I met on twitter while our men were both are Ranger School, Lindsey, got hers in about 3 days, but she lives in Tennessee. The first letter I got was a…
Yep, you read that right. A care package for MilSOs. I decided that MilSOs (Military Significant Others) should get care packages sometimes too. I got the idea from this really cute Deployment Survival Kit that I found on Pinterest by Scraptastic Voyage. I stole most of the ideas from there, so be sure to check out hers too. I have two girlfriends whose men are about to go through deployments, so I made one for each of them. I took pictures of all the things that I included.
For the nights that it's hard to fall asleep:
For late nights and early mornings on Skype:
To wipe away the tears (of sadness by also of joy when he comes home!)
A Bible for courage and strength:
Mounds: To remind you of the "mounds" of support you have from family and friends.
Laffy Taffy: For remembering to laugh.
Lifesavers: To remind you that you're his lifesaver.
Marbles (for when you've lost yours):
Anti-stress face mask, bath salts, and candle.. for "me time":
This has been a post that I've been wanting to write for a while. I don't claim that I handled the deployment perfectly. There were more than a few moments of heartache and complete meltdowns. But this is the list that I've compiled from my own experience and from talking to women much wiser than I.
1. Don't compare. James's unit was the last one to deploy for a full 12 months (deployments this long do still happen but they aren't the "standard"). The month after he deployed, they switched to 9-month deployments. I was really bitter about that for a while. But you know what? Deployments were 18 months not so long ago. And I'm sure there were plenty of people that envied the 12-month deployments when that happened. There will always be someone whose husband has a shorter deployment. Or who gets to talk to their husband more than you do. Or one who gets more flowers in the mail than you. Wasting time on comparison will only make the time go slower.